Organized chaos. Those two words wholly embody what the day to day looks like since I have become a mother. The last 8 months have been the hardest yet most rewarding time for me. My life is no longer my own. That ended the day my sweet girl came into this world. Since then I have been wobbling along like a baby learning to walk, learning how to do life with a child. Oh sure it’s all butterflies and rainbows over here at the Roberts’ house… butterflies, rainbows, and so many poopy diapers that I could start a fertilizer company. Seriously if you don’t have kids… they poop… a lot.
Anyway life is in a constant state of flux as Bella grows and changes, and consequently so do her needs. For example I’m writing this blogpost on my iPhone while rocking Bella because today the crib wasn’t doing it for naps. We are both totally content. Flexibility has become key. I have learned to embrace the slow life which is odd considering I am doing more than I ever have. I guess it’s more about priorities and working smarter not harder. Motherhood has made me an expert in efficiency and the side effects of it in my business are positively glorious.
We decided to sleep train Bella early to give her a schedule. Granted I am not the iron clad she always has to be in her crib at the exact same time every day person (clearly as she is currently sleeping on me), but more or less she naps around the same time and goes to bed around 7:30. I always wanted to make sure she had enough sleep and this was the best way I knew how to do it. More on that later.
A typical day begins sometime around 6:30 or 7 am. Every once in a while she’ll throw me a bone and wake up at 7:30 – those are the best days. Sleeping in is some memory that has been lost in parent/child induced amnesia. Bella is still nursing around 4-6 times a day, right after and sometimes before naps. We take our morning walk and eat breakfast. Watermelon, blueberries and oatmeal is her current breakfast of choice.
At that point she gets put on her floor mat to play with the dogs and toys and I attempt to do a 20 minute workout, then make myself a protein shake and join in the fun. Boomer, the golden lab, is the best dog ever! By the way, when your child is eating by themselves having a dog around is so helpful. Living, breathing vacuum cleaner. Currently Bella likes to practice standing, and sitting, and standing, and sitting. You get the picture. It’s a very exciting time in a baby’s life when they can pull themselves up to a standing position. Heaven help me when the walking, excuse me, running phase comes. I give it another month.
I get more of a workout following this kid around than I do when I’m using weights and what not. Maybe I should tie some ankle weights on and off I go. Hmm, that might not be a bad idea considering the last few pregnancy pounds have tried to superglue themselves onto my thighs and butt. Cue eye roll. The best part of my day is watching her learn. Every day is an exploration. Hours of the scientific method are employed as she tests out objects, discovering all that she can about the world around her. What does it looks like? Smell like? Taste like? How does it feel? Can I throw it? The kid’s brilliant.
Down for a nap, and during that time I clean, and get started on whatever work I have for the day. I don’t know how it’s happened, maybe because I pray over my time and productivity a lot, but I get way more done than the laws of physics dictates I should. Hallelujah. It’s like I step into this portal of excellent efficiency and ninja accomplish my to-do list.
Granted there are also days, like Tuesday, when running after Bella gets me all kinds of ready for a nap and I choose to sleep when she does. One of the things that I have tried to learn since becoming a work at home mom, is to be kind to myself. When I need to nap, I nap. Work will always be there. I am literally nourishing a tiny human from my own body after all. If I’m not in tip top shape, neither will she.
Bella usually sleeps for about 90 minutes during her first nap, and then we are off to the races. Normally we go out to lunch with Will’s parents. I love doing this because it so breaks up the monotony of my day. It gets Bella and I out of the house. She is fantastic at eating out, probably because she’s done it since she was about a month old. Granted she also has Grandpa wrapped around her finger (as she should). The moment she gives one little scoff they are off walking around seeing the sights and people. Now, when we’re at restaurants we like to play a little game called, “How Many Times Do I Get To Pick Up Bella’s Toys From The Floor?” Riveting stuff.
Once we’re done with lunch, we go out shopping, or sometimes head back home, or (soon) to her baby gymnastics class. I love getting her out and about regularly. Honestly if it wasn’t so dang hot in Arizona during the day, we’d do way more mid-day hiking, biking, park-like adventures. But alas it is, currently it’s 94 degrees out (at 3 pm) and that’s the coolest it’s been all week, so we have to get creative with other kinds of adventures. She does love swimming though so I will definitely be utilizing that opportunity to get outdoors.
I really get stuff done during her second nap. 2-2 1/2 hours of sweet dreamy nap time sleep. 2-2 1/2 hours of maniac mom working on her dreams. I have big dreams people! Momma’s gotta work! Truthfully, I really want to be able to tell my daughter that I achieved every single last dream that I had. I want her to know that with faith and hard work she can accomplish anything she wants. So off I go being some kind of great example or something. This is the stuff legends are made of folks.
Next is dinner, and Big Bang Theory (currently the only show I actually watch on television). Don’t judge me. I hate kids tv programming. As a professional musician the music is usually like nails on a chalkboard. Ahhh, don’t get me started. On the weekends we do Hallmark Channel. Yes it’s cheesy. But you know what? It’s happy, and Bella likes it. Her favorite shows are Fixer Upper and anything on the Hallmark Channel. Funny kid. Back to the day to day.
Bath time. The best time (besides first waking up) in Bella’s day. That kid could be in the worst mood ever and the moment she hears that bath water, zing! happy baby. She is hysterical in the bath. Granted she’s hysterical all the time. The girl is going to get out of so much trouble because she makes me laugh so hard. She already tries it with naps. I’m a little ashamed to admit how often it works too. Following this is her bedtime routine of a story, a prayer, and essential oils. Then it’s off to bed. I am so thankful that she is a good sleeper. I literally prayed for that during my entire pregnancy.
That’s when the real work starts for me. The past few months Will has had to work a lot at night, so I take the opportunity to really work on my blog and grow it. It takes a lot of discipline because at this time of night, I’m ready to cash it in and binge watch Netflix or Amazon Prime. Sometimes I do that, but most of the time I get my best work done at night.
I love motherhood. I love how crazy, challenging, and wonderful it can be. It has caused me to be a better person, and it is such an honor to be the one who gets to help Bella become the amazing, world changing person that I know she is. This is our day to day. This is our life. Granted every day looks different, and that seems to be increasing as more opportunities open up for Will and I. However it’s good. We have a good life, and we have good days. Mainly because we choose to make it that way. Not everything is perfect, but it doesn’t have to be perfect to be good.