So I’ve been thinking about something as of late, and that something is what advice do I often give to new (well newer) parents. The moment you announce you’re preggo this flood of wisdom and opinions come at you.
It seems so long ago now that my hubby and I were staring blankly at our living room wall because we couldn’t believe it… I was pregnant. What a surprise our little Bella was for us. Coming two years early if you would have asked us, but actually right on time. How many of you all know what I’m talking about?! We were moving to another state and I thought I was just late because of the stress of moving. I mean I’ve heard that you just “know” when you’re preggo… apparently I missed the boat on that one!
At that moment it seemed like we entered into a season of chaos, with the bright light being our daughter. In the midst of the craziness that was the last year and a half there was one sound piece of advice that I received in regards to parenting. Now I tell it to everyone I know.
To each his own and love covers a multitude of sins.
What?! That’s it?!
And all the parents who have had people try to shove their method of parenting down their throat said, “Amen.”
It seems so vague doesn’t it? Gee, thanks Lauren what the heck can I do with that? Honestly, a lot. Here’s why. There are a million different ways to parent a child and a lot of things play into how it all pans out: circumstances, who the parents are, who the child is, medical conditions, religious preferences, etc.
Sure I believe there are certain parenting methods that are better than others – 10 years of nannying showed me that. However, at the end of the day what really matters is you have got to do what you’ve got to do to make your family the most blessed, to keep them safe, and to prepare them for the real world. As long as those kiddos are so loved, everything else tends to fall into place somehow.
Personally I get people all the time who ask me how we parent Bella. I’m happy to tell them, but I always give the disclaimer that ABC is what worked for us. Doesn’t mean it’s going to work for them. Heck it doesn’t mean it’s going to work for us the next time around. Let’s be real we’re all just pretending we know what we’re doing and trying to figure this whole thing out one day at a time.
When we become parents we enter a long journey of dealing with pointed opinions, and overindulged emotions… from other people. Let me just go ahead and put your mind at ease. Just because it worked for someone else, doesn’t mean it has to work for you! Listen to their advice, adopt it if you want, or don’t. You have to do what’s right for you and your family.
You have the total and complete ability to parent your child and being a rockstar at it. God gave YOU that sweet little one, not the person who’s trying to beat you over the head with why or why not you should be a SAHM or breastfeed for 2 years or 6 months or not at all or use cloth or throw away diapers… blah blah blah. If you’ve been a parent for more than 5 milliseconds you’ve heard it.
This is truly the best advice I ever received because haters are gonna hate. When they do I just remember “to each his own and love covers a multitude of sins”, and I just continue on my day. It diffuses so much mom-shaming and guilt that can try to come my way. I’m not perfect (apparently the human race tends toward the imperfect side of the spectrum). I make mistakes sometimes and get things, but that baby girl is so love and secure in that love. That’s what it’s all about, love.
You got this mom and dad! You are a fantastic parent. Just keep on being you and loving your kids so much they start to get embarrassed by it… seriously. This is a great perk of parenthood, ha! So go ahead and pat yourself on the back because you are raising another human being. This is not stuff for the faint at heart y’all!
Anyway, hope this encourages you guys.
What’s some parenting advice that you received that really impacted you?
Love and Blessings,